When someone you love is an abuser

Zero tolerance for abuse in our community is a must. But if the abuser turns out to be someone you care about, is there room to hang on to your relationship? Maybe. But it's complicated.

A few weeks ago, a young Jewish woman published an essay about her experience of sexual abuse on a Jewish educational program that him home for me. Her story described a 48-year-old professor who had, according to her account, used his role as her mentor to engage her, his 17-year-old mentee, in a months-long, emotionally-intimate relationship. Had they…